Americans without mental health conditions like to talk about people with anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions in intriguing ways.
They like to offer us a billion home remedies and natural fixes instead of encouraging us as we seek medication and/or therapy. As such, instead of looking at us as people, they see us as projects who need curing instead of grace.
And then there are those who put us on odd pedestals that I personally never asked for.
They call us canaries in coal mines, extra sensitive to the pain of the world and, as a result, its saviors.
To be honest, I’m not sure which one is worse.
On the one hand, I don’t want my pain diminished and the treatment I seek for it to be demonized. On the other hand, I don’t want to be the world’s savior. And I don’t want my fellow people struggling with mental health conditions to have that burden placed on them.
Because yes, canaries warn coal miners of toxins in the air so they could get out and save themselves.
But those miners also let the canaries die.
That’s the country in which we live. We don’t live in a country that takes care of us. We don’t even live in one which heeds our warnings.
We live in a country that demonizes, ostracizes, and casts us aside.
So please, don’t put us on this pedestal, whatever your good intentions may be, even if it’s out of your desire to rewrite the narrative around us. Please, just let us be people who care deeply about the world and need deep care.
Because even though we are your prophets, activists, and healers, we have to manage our own conditions so your pain doesn’t kill us.